How the 12 Steps Heal Sex Addicts: Step Nine
Posted under Sex Addiction Therapy on Wednesday, February 1st, 2012
Step 9: Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
This is another deeply liberating step. After amends have been made, there are no reasons that one has to hide from the world for past deeds. Those we have harmed and avoided out of shame have an exaggerated power over us.
Step 9 implies a readiness to accept the consequences of past behavior, which is important in developing new modes of being in the world. It is an essential step in the development of a self and other orientation to living.