By Leslie Thompson
In a society where there always seems to be a distinction between the “haves” and the “have nots,” there is one element in life that doesn’t discriminate: addiction. Late last summer, actor David Duchovny voluntarily admitted himself into a rehab facility for sex addiction, prompting a worldwide media frenzy filled with questions, assumptions, and gossip.
Questions such as, “Does sex addiction even exist?” and “Isn’t that just an excuse for someone who’s having multiple affairs?” circulated for weeks following Duchovny’s announcement. However, it is important to understand that sex addiction is a serious disorder that affects an estimated 18 to 24 million Americans. For Duchovny, publicly acknowledging his problem was the necessary first step in a long journey toward recovery.
So what exactly is sex addiction? It is best defined as a progressive intimacy disorder whereby the individual has an intense sexual drive and compulsion with sex. Like other addictions, the longer the disorder remains untreated, the greater the impact the addiction has on an individual. Sex addicts become so absorbed in their own sexual desires and feelings that the obsession negatively impacts other areas of their lives, such as their relationships with their family and friends.
Shortly after Duchovny checked into rehab, reports started circulating—and were later confirmed—that he and his wife of 12 years, Tea Leoni, had separated. Although the reasons behind the separation were never made public, it came as no surprise as sexual addiction has a history of destroying relationships. In fact, it is estimated that pornography is a significant factor in two out of three divorces, and 47% of married couples say pornography is a problem in their marriage. Although Duchovny denied having an affair, extra-marital affairs are also quite common with sex addicts.
How does one become addicted to sex? Most therapists would agree that reasons behind an addiction vary from person to person but that generally speaking, the three main reasons stem from biological, psychological, and spiritual issues. For the “biological” addict, the individual becomes accustomed to experiencing the endorphins and enkephlines released during sexual activity. The “psychological” addict uses sex as a way to mask other problems in their life, such as anxiety or stress. The “spiritual” addict replaces conventional religions with their addiction, so their addiction provides a form of spirituality.
There are several different types of treatment plans for sexual addiction, one being an in-patient treatment center like the one Duchovny checked into. Twelve-step programs, group and/or family therapy, and one-on-one therapy sessions are other successful treatment options.
No matter what addiction you or someone you love may be dealing with, it needs to be treated. For sexual addicts, treatment is aimed at showing how an individual can learn to control their sexual compulsion. For Duchovny, rehab may have paid off—his name is once again appearing in the headlines, only this time in the positive: After an extended separation, Duchovny and Leoni are back together.
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